If breaking up is hard to do, then recovering from a break-up must be even harder. If you find yourself struggling with how to move on or snap back after a painful break-up or divorce, here are 10 things you can do to expedite your recovery:
- Go to a park. There’s something therapeutic about being in nature. Go to a park, sit on a bench or lie in the grass and reflect on the lessons you’ve learned from your previous relationship or partner. Remember, there’s always a lesson and a gift.
- Put on some music and dance. It is impossible for our brains to have a negative thought and a positive thought at the same time. Combat the blues by blasting some upbeat music and dancing like your life depends on it. Don’t worry, no one’s watching.
- Turn off all electronics for 24 hours. Oftentimes, we attempt to distract ourselves from painful feelings by spending hours and hours watching TV, scrolling through social media, or playing video games. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you are feeling. Don’t be afraid to be alone with your thoughts. Remember, this too shall pass.
- Color with crayons. Adult coloring books are all the rage. Research indicates that coloring for up to one hour each day helps to increase focus and concentration, reduce stress and anxiety, and alleviate symptoms of depression. Remember, you’re never too old to color!
- Do a small act of kindness. Stepping outside of your own pain to connect with someone who may be in even greater pain, may help you to put your situation or circumstance into proper perspective.
- Let go of something. Get a small piece of paper and write down your biggest fear, your greatest regret, or your deepest desire. Place the piece of paper inside of a helium balloon. Now Let.It.Go.
- Forgive someone. Forgiveness is never for the other person. Forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness simply means that you give up your right punish the individual for the wrong they’ve done to you.
- Read a book. Dive into a good novel or self-help book to take your mind off of things. Sometimes, distraction is the best medicine.
- Call a friend. If you find yourself down in the dumps, reach out to a trusted family member or friend for support and encouragement. If you prefer to talk to a neutral party, a counselor can help you identify and process negative thoughts and emotions. You do not have to suffer in silence.
- Write a letter. Feelings buried alive do not die. Writing a letter to your former self is a great way to release painful memories, negative emotions, and feelings of guilt or self-doubt. If given the opportunity, what would you say to your 10-year old self? Use this letter as an opportunity to show yourself some compassion.
Divorce and break-ups can trigger a myriad of painful emotions. These tips can help you nurture and support yourself through the healing process.
Cheers to Health and Wholeness,