What’s Happening Many teens spend less time with their families than they did as younger children. As they become more independent and learn to think for themselves, relationships with friends become very important. Sometimes it may feel like your teen doesn’t need you anymore. But teens still need their parents’ love, support, and guidance. What […]
Many teens spend less time with their families than they did as younger children. As they become more independent and learn to think for themselves, relationships with friends become very important. Sometimes it may feel like your teen doesn’t need you anymore. But teens still need their parents’ love, support, and guidance.
What You Might Be Seeing
- Crave independence
- Question rules and authority
- Test limits
- Can be impulsive
- Make mature decisions at times, and childish ones at other times
What You Can Do
Simple, everyday activities can reinforce the connection between you and your teen. Make room in your schedule for special times but also take advantage of routine activities to show you care.
Remember: Your words and actions help your teen feel secure. Don’t forget to say and show how much you love your teen!
Tips To Keep In Mind
- Have family meals. If it’s impossible to do every night, schedule a regular weekly family dinner night that accommodates your child’s schedule.
- Share “ordinary” time. Look for everyday opportunities to bond with your teen. Even times spent driving or walking the dog together offer chances for your teen to talk about what is on his or her mind.
- Get involved, be involved, and stay involved. Go to games and practices. Ask about homework and school projects. Learn about your teen’s favorite websites and apps. Look for chances to join in your teen’s latest hobby.
- Get to know your child’s friends. Knowing your child’s friends is an important way to connect with your teen. Make your home a welcoming place for your teen and his or her friends.
- Be interested. Make it clear that you care about your teen’s ideas, feelings, and experiences. If you listen to what he or she is saying, you’ll get a better sense of the guidance and support needed. Get to know your teen’s friends and their parents, too, when possible.
- Set clear limits. Teens still need your guidance, but you can involve your teen in setting rules and consequences. Make sure consequences are related to the behavior and be consistent in following through. Choose your battles. Try to provide choices in matters that are less important.
- Get help. It’s okay to not have all the answers! Your teen did not come with a handbook. If you feel you need extra parenting support or would like to learn ways to better communicate with your teen, counseling can help. Schedule an initial intake appointment here.