Dating relationships can bring complex dynamics: Both parties have family and friends involved in their life who care about their well-being. But things can get tricky when that extends into romantic relationships. Should you ask your friends if they like your romantic partner? Should you listen to what they say? What are the pros and cons of getting feedback about your relationships? Here are things to consider when talking to other people about a romantic partner:
When should you ask for feedback?
Asking for feedback from others about your relationship may be helpful if you have a history of making poor choices when it comes to romantic partners. If you find it difficult to trust your own judgment, reaching out for objective, honest feedback from someone you trust can help you gain clarity.
When should you not ask for feedback?
You may want to avoid asking for feedback if it requires that you divulge personal or intimate details about your partner. The last thing you want to do is embarrass your partner or cause them to feel betrayed in any way. For advice about sensitive issues, you may be better off seeking the objective opinion of a couples therapist.
When should you listen to feedback?
If several of your loved ones voice similar concerns, you may want to take heed. Ultimately, your decision is yours and yours alone, however, you may avoid unnecessary heartache by taking their views of your relationship into consideration.
When should you not listen to feedback?
Consider the source. If the source is angry and bitter and just doesn’t want to see you happy, you may need to take their advice with a grain of salt. If the source places extreme importance on superficial matters such as someone’s looks or chosen profession, they may not be capable of you giving you the kind of advice you need.
Dating relationships can be stressful and complex. Sometimes, receiving advice from loved ones can be extremely helpful; other times it can be detrimental. If you need help deciding when and when not to welcome the advice of others, schedule an individual or couples therapy appointment today.