Whether you call it cheating, stepping out, adultery, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, deceit, or betrayal, few life experiences compare to the pain of infidelity. Back in the day, cheating was pretty straightforward: It involved actual face-to-face sexual contact. Now, in the age of social media, webcams, dating sites, and internet porn, extracurricular sexual behavior is easier than ever.
To complicate things, many couples don’t agree on what constitutes cheating. Some men argue that porn sites and social media do not count as infidelity. Some women hold that an emotional affair cannot be considered cheating at all.
The problem with these views is that infidelity cannot be defined by any specific act, but rather by the keeping of secrets in a committed relationship. Simply put, anything you wouldn’t do or say if your spouse were present is a violation of the marital contract. Rather than debate the definition of cheating, couples are better off spending time being intentional about meeting the physical and emotional needs of their partner.
Even still, a person may choose to get physical and/or emotional fulfillment outside of their spouse. After repeated disappointment and failed expectations, many couples turn to divorce for relief. Counseling can help ease the pain and devastation of divorce.
If you or someone you know needs help navigating through the aftermath of infidelity or divorce, please contact me to schedule an individual or couples therapy appointment today.